From the day of being sensible, we always hovered between perseverance and giving up in the expectations of parents, relatives, friends and teachers.
The students insisted on the final sprint. In their view, after ten years of hard study and hard study, only one of the ideal universities can gain a leading position in the society, Guangzong Yaozu. However, things in the world are not always satisfactory. How many of the thousands of students can enter their ideal universities? Even after entering an ideal university and successfully graduating, there are a few more jobs that you can find. Not to mention the students who failed. Even so, the students are still sticking to their studies.
Farmers insist on the most primitive farming. Land is their only living space. It works by sunrise and sunset, facing the loess and facing the sky. Throughout the year, the wind and rain are unhindered. It is also a kind of persistence to create their own world with their hard work.
Businessmen insist on maximizing profits. In their lives, every ups and downs on the trading floor made their originally fragile nerves stretch tighter; the skepticism everywhere in the business caused them to struggle to survive in the turmoil, which required more persistence.
Persistence is a pursuit and a wait for each of us. Even if life is cruel, people always choose not to give up. Because persistence is a prerequisite for achieving ideals, it means heavy responsibilities and obligations, and it means a pursuit that never gives up.
However, while persisting, we should still learn to give up.
Giving up does not mean escaping. Giving up means a careful correction of one's own goals in life, the maturity of personality and reason, and the perseverance and courage required after failure. When you know you ca n’t do it, but want to get it, you need to give up; when your waiting turns into nothingness, you need to give up; when your dream is broken by cruel reality, you need to give up. Giving up is a kind of wisdom, a kind of cultivation, a kind of detachment, a choice, and it is also a kind of maturity from the beginning of the world to life. People who know how to live should also give up.
Confucius once said: "Standing at thirty, forty is not confusing, and fifty is knowing the destiny." From thirty to forty to fifty, is a big jump in life. This jump is from immaturity to maturity. From the age of thirty, it is the age at which we accumulate knowledge, accumulate wealth, accumulate experience, perceive life, and start a family; at the age of forty, we enter the age of fifty. Give up those things that are not really needed by your heart, such as wine and meat friends who do not want to continue to communicate, the reputation, the money you do n’t want to earn, and so on. Otherwise, we will feel overwhelmed and finally knock ourselves down.
Life is a choice, we need to learn to persevere, but also learn to give up. The realization of the ideal is always lucky. Losing what you should not lose will always be accompanied by a bit of frustration, but the truth of what is lost must also be carefully considered and grasped. So learning to give up is harder than learning to persevere. So, in a sense, learning to give up is the sign of our true maturity.
Wei Feifei / Wen (Haoyuan Statistical Accounting)